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Last month, Dinner Confidential hosted 10 dinners on the topic of PURPOSE. Spanning continents, women (and a group of men) from Amsterdam to Buenos Aires, Nairobi to Stockholm, Edinburgh to New York gathered to share and listen and hold space for each other.

First, a story from Dee, host from Toronto/New York…

“As a child, I’d hear friends proudly declare at the wise young ages of 5/10/15, “When I grow up, I want to be a doctor/lawyer/dancer/astronaut, etc”. I was never one of these kids (or even adults!) who had laser focus on what my role in life should be. And I felt envious and anxious because we’re all supposed to find our purpose by the time we leave high school, right? Especially as a first generation immigrant from the Philippines, I lived under the weight of implicit societal and familial expectations to follow in the footsteps of my parents, doctors who sowed the seeds for a better life in America and whose ancestors tilled the soil for roots to grow strong. As my life progressed, my “purpose” became less clear and less singular: from indecision in my university major, to spending 15 years as a strategist helping brands find their purpose, to pivoting into the world of wellness and now at 40 years old embracing this vacillation. But why couldn’t I land on MY purpose? …


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Last month, Dinner Confidential hosted 9 global dinners on the topics of ENVY and JEALOUSY. Women around the world — from Singapore to Rome — spoke with courage and listened to one another with compassion, as we each shared our journeys with these powerful emotions.

Envy and jealousy are some of the most provocative and intimidating feelings we’ve explored so far (and we’ve explored some very taboo topics like anger, sexuality and grief). Even many of us hosts — who are seasoned facilitators — felt uncomfortable holding a space for this conversation. But we made it through and we are so glad. …


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For almost 3 years, Dinner Confidential has been exploring how women relate to some of our most sensitive and taboo topics: self-love, grief, ambition, pleasure and the list goes on.

Last month, we dove into the heart of human connection and explored the topic of VULNERABILITY in 9 cities around the world. From Lisbon to Vietnam, Edinburgh to Nairobi — women spoke with courage and listened to one another with compassion, as we each shared some of our most vulnerable stories.

What is vulnerability anyway?

Researcher and author, Brene Brown, defines it as “uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure.” Many of us *know* that vulnerability leads to a more honest, courageous and authentic life. …


Last month, we hosted dinners on “Pleasure” in 10 cities around the world. From Tokyo to Miami, Nairobi to Mexico City, women gathered (many virtually) to share and listen to our experiences on this topic. Here is what we learned.

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Such a wide range of factors came into play when talking about pleasure, they have since lingered in our psyches as we try to make sense of them. It’s like we have opened the lid off a box we have been carrying around for years, only to find the contents inside were not that familiar at all. …


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Last month, we hosted dinners on “Self-Confidence” in 14 cities around the world. From Amsterdam to Caracas, Lisbon to Vietnam, women gathered (many virtually) to share and listen to our experiences on this topic. Here is what we learned.

But first, a personal story from euni, Dinner Confidential host in San Diego, USA:

I’ve always been inconsistent with my relationship and connection with my own body. Mostly because I spent so much time examining others bodies to compare mine to that I wasn’t living in my own skin. Last year I came to a place of admittance that I carried a lot of hate for certain parts of myself. …


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Last month, we hosted dinners on the topic of “Guilt” in 13 cities around the world. From Miami to Buenos Aires, Annecy to Singapore, women gathered (many virtually) to share and listen to our experiences on this topic. Here is what we learned.

But first, a personal story from Roxanne, Dinner Confidential host in Edinburgh, Scotland:

“We travel, initially, to lose ourselves; and we travel, next, to find ourselves. We travel to open our hearts and eyes and learn more about the world than our newspapers will accommodate. We travel to bring what little we can, in our ignorance and knowledge, to those parts of the globe whose riches are differently dispersed. And we travel, in essence, to become young fools again — to slow time down and get taken in, and fall in love once more.”


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Last month, we hosted dinners on the topic of “Fear” in 13 cities around the world. From Singapore to Nairobi, Amsterdam to San Francisco, women gathered on computer screens across the globe to discuss how they experience and relate to their fears. Here is what we learned.

But first, a personal story from euni, Dinner Confidential host in San Diego, USA:

I’ve always felt fearless as I have always associated fear with a feeling of safety in my body or my courage to take action on ideas. …


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Last month, we hosted dinners on the topic of “Pleasing and Boundaries” in 15 cities around the world. From London to Lisbon, Tel Aviv to Mexico City, women gathered on computer screens across the globe to discuss what pleasing and boundaries mean to them.

But first, a personal story from Julie, our Dinner Confidential host in Rome:

“I only started thinking about Pleasing and Boundaries thanks to Dinner Confidential. I grew up in a family where freedom prevailed. My parents’ response to pretty much everything was: “Do whatever makes you happy, love.” …


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Last month, we hosted VIRTUAL dinners on the topic of “Female Relationships” in 7 cities around the world. From Norman, Oklahoma to Buenos Aires, Rome to New York, women gathered on computer screens across the globe to discuss what female relationships mean to them. Dinner tables were replaced with Zoom rooms, as everyone logged on with a meal and a beverage of choice.

But first, a personal story from Sybil, one of our founders and NYC host…

Right before lockdown began, I went through the dreaded “friendship breakup” — twice. …


Dinner Confidential helps to build a world where women feel more free, loving, connected and courageous.

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Last month, we hosted VIRTUAL dinners on the topic of “control” in 8 cities around the world. From Mexico City to Rome, Amsterdam to Seattle, women gathered on computer screens across the globe to discuss what control means to them. Dinner tables were replaced with Zoom rooms, as everyone logged on with a meal and a beverage of choice.

This article has two parts: 1) What control means for women and 2) What control means for women during this global pandemic. We offer these insights from our dinners around the world in the hopes of inspiring a deeper understanding of our relationship to control, and maybe, injecting a bit more trust into our lives. …

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